4. How to help the Addicted Person to Recover:
If you are concerned about a person who may be addicted person, showing caring without anger, criticism, or blame is mandatory. In showing your caring, you'll need to list the facts of events which concern you about the person's addictive activities and consequences (DUI, blackout, missing work, broken promises, etc.). If the person of concern rejects or minimizes the facts and you notice the problem continuing, please email or call me for more information.
5. How does a Person Recover from an Addiction?
In the beginning, nearly everyone with an addiction has a mixture of many intense reactions. These reactions range from wanting to control their use (so they can be a normal user), to fear of stopping, anger and feeling persecuted, to knowing that they "have to quit" (but also not wanting to quit). The addicted person often assumes that all they need to do is "just quit" using/doing the addictive activities (alcohol, gambling, porn, etc.) and that they need no help. Thus, they refuse counseling, 12-Step meetings, or other help. Unfortunately, this results in only temporary abstinance, no growth, likely switching to another addictive activity ("I won't use drugs anymore, I'll just smoke cigarettes and drink alcohol."), or relapse to their addiction.
The addicted person does not realize the changes which are required to develop a lasting high quality recovery (which minimizes relapse possibilities). These changes include psychological (values, beliefs, patterns, etc.), relationships, and lifestyle changes. Thus the person in early stages of recovery needs guides (a professional counselor and a 12-step sponsor) to help the person complete the many growth steps and avoid the most common errors (which lead to relapse).
One of the main reasons the addicted often refuses help is the shame they feel and the mistrust of others. This is often expressed in the phrase, "My problems are no one else's business." Unfortunately, not allowing help significantly handicaps the person in learning how to resolve the underlying issues of the addiction. These underlying issues are the roots feeding the addiction, results in relapses.
The recoverying person needs to slowly accept their addiction by learning about the impacts of the addiction on their life (which includes 8 major areas of their life). Please call or email for more information if you like. This process helps the person work through various forms of denial and developing a deep acceptance of the addiction. This process of developing a true acceptance of the addiction usually takes several months of professional counseling and 12-Step meetings.
The addicted person will go through several stages of recovery. NOTE: This section will be continued soon. So please email or call me if you want more info. immediately.